Surely, as parents, our greatest goal is for our children is to be happy. To help them achieve this, we strive hard to provide for their needs so they could reach their academic and professional goals and lead a successful life. Most of us strongly believe that if they accomplish their dreams and be able to pursue their passion, they will gain a sense of fulfillment and this, in turn, will give them the happiness that they deserve and what we have envisioned.
In order for an individual to thrive, there are certain values and traits that are essential to be established during childhood and early learning. Qualities such as perseverance, hard work, patience, gratitude, commitment, honesty, and integrity are just some of the valuable traits that are needed so that a person can accomplish his ambitions in life. These virtues are built up through various activities and experiences at Wyralla Road Kindy, a childcare in Miranda.
A highly important attitude that should be strengthened at a very young age is confidence. A child that is confident is not afraid of changes and challenges and grows up to become a resilient adult who is strong enough to handle the adversities in life—not giving up on their dreams even after a failure or a setback. A person who has a high self-esteem knows his worth and strongly believes that he can succeed in anything if he puts his heart and mind on it.
Here are ten useful tips that could help parents raise confident children:
Kids should constantly hear good things and comments of praise for a job well done. From toddlerhood, preschool, and through the different stages of their lives, it is ideal to immerse them in uplifting and positive words. This serves as a pat on the back that if continually given on suitable and realistic scenarios, will help in building up their self-esteem. Whenever appropriate and whenever the circumstances call for it, always reward your child with empowering phrases and words of praise—no matter how small or remarkable their accomplishment is—so they will be motivated in keeping up the good work.
Always strive to maintain a supportive, encouraging, and positive environment at home. Problems, disagreements, and issues are normal and unavoidable. It is important to let your children understand that conflicts do happen and they should be addressed and solved, and even if issues do transpire, they are still cared for and loved unconditionally. If kids feel important and valued, this gives them a sense of reassurance that provides them with the courage to find positivity in every loss, conflict, or unpleasant situation that they face.
Make your little ones feel that they are accepted. Let them feel your love and assurance. Do not compare them to other kids as this will lead to a low self-esteem. When your kids are confident, they will not be afraid to share their opinions, verbalizing what they think is right, and they will be strong enough in solving problems. A child who is accepted and loved celebrates his own individuality and uniqueness.
Inspire your little ones to share their opinion on something. Asking them what they think about the park you’ve recently been to, how your preschooler’s day went at the kindergarten, about the dress that you’ve spotted at a nearby mall, or for her honest feedback on the recent recipe that you’ve tried will enhance her confidence in sharing her ideas. If she is confident to give her opinion and to air her complaints and criticisms in a respectful way, this will be hugely helpful in school or in occasions where teamwork and collaboration are needed.
Ensure that no bullying happens inside your home, at school, or in your neighborhood. Bullying depletes a child’s self-esteem and courage so it is strongly suggested to always be aware of your child’s relationships and engagements, to give time to talk to them each day, encouraging them to be honest with you, and to maintain an open communication so that all forms of bullying and intimidation that is set to crush your child’s spirit is nipped in the bud—immediately.
Provide adequate encouragement and support to your kids when they face failure. Remind them of their past successes and achievements. Their healthy self-esteem and your reassurance will allow them to accept the said loss, to learn from it, and move on with faith and optimism. These events develop their resilience in coping with criticisms and failures. Show them that you are there to guide and support them in their wonderful progress.
Praising your kids age-appropriately and in a reasonable way will let them understand and appreciate their strengths. Too much praising may lead to arrogance and being self-centred so it is best to provide a reasonable praise, making your child understand that there are good things that he may have done which will get unnoticed…and that’s perfectly fine. This will also allow your child to be aware of the importance of the good thing that he did yet still keeping him grounded, knowing that he is still susceptible to making mistakes.
Support your kids to try and explore new things. When they are offered various opportunity to try a new thing or to venture a new place, they discover something from it which gives them the courage and eagerness to face their fears, to be open to changes, and to appreciate that there are a lot of things to discover and learn from the world that we live in. These experiences and realizations incredibly enrich their characters.
Acknowledge their opinion respectfully. If their point-of-view differs from that of yours or from the rest of the family, address and acknowledge it so your child recognizes that having different opinions is fine. They will learn to be strong enough to verbalize what they think is right without compromising their respect to the opinions of others, always dealing various inputs and suggestions honestly yet with diplomacy towards a goal for the common good.
Teach your child to be confident by reminding them of their abilities and talents, and supporting them to hone more skills. By being confident, they will also be able to know how to identify and handle peer pressure and confidently saying, “No” to people who may likely be a ‘bad influence’.
When we try to provide a sense of security to our kids, their strength of character and confidence pave the way for more positive attributes and qualities that they need for them to lead accomplished lives. Letting them feel that they are loved and accepted will make them feel blessed, teach them the value of empathy and respect towards other people who may be less-skilled or less fortunate; and if they have a high self-esteem, there is no room for self-pity, being dictated or getting intimidated if they are with people who have more achievements than them: they become confident and eventually know what ‘self-love’ is all about by appreciating their talents and by improving themselves further.
Let’s believe in our children so they can soar to greater heights!
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